What to Read

She handed him to me, and said, “Here is your Mommy.” ( Full Article Here)

What I Said When My White Friend Asked for My Black Opinion on White Privilege

2.) Fear of being questioned or dismissed with “Are you sure that’s what you heard?” or “Are you sure that’s what they meant?” and being angered and upset all over again by well-meaning but hurtful and essentially unsupportive responses. ( Read Full Article)

Stepping Off of my 33 Year Old Throne

My younger version self was when she really was doing the best she could with what she had, with what she knew at that time. My younger version self that was throwing herself into all the chaos in hopes to find what worked, answering the question of what love means to me and even letting someone show me? When I was out there, really out there exploring all the risks in order to know the truth. ( Full Article)

What To Read this Week….

Some of the things I read this week, and wanted to share.

She Thought It Was a Parade

“Look, Mom — a parade!” my 4-year old daughter was giddy when she saw the front page of today’s newspaper.
A parade.
That’s what my daughter associated with the images circulating of white folks holding tiki torches while proudly waving confederate flags down the streets of Charlottesville, Virginia. (Full Article)

Open Adoption: An Interview With A Birth Mom And Adoptive Mom

Prospective adoptive parents need to do the heavy lifting of discerning why openness scares them. Is it jealousy? False stereotypes? Not wanting to “share?” Barring a true issue of trauma or safety, research tells us that some degree of openness is best for the adoptee. At its core, adoption is about “sharing.” Our kids come from a family of origin and that cannot be erased or ignored. ( full article)

When the answer is no

Another tally mark in the “things I never expected when I signed up for this” category. (Read Full Article Here)

What I Read This Week… You Should Too

A collection of the things that inspired, resignated, and or made me laugh from around the web this week.

5 Things That Happen Because Open Adoption Is A New Concept

“I could never have someone like her around.”

Adoptive parents in open adoptions often are asked “Was she on drugs?” or “Why didn’t she want the baby?” We often spend a lot of time defending our children’s birth parents honor to friends, family, and strangers alike. Tune into any Lifetime-esque channel and you will see a litany of movies showing the scary birth mom who tries to steal her child back. Even the people closest to us don’t understand the relationships we have which can lead adoptive parents to feel isolated at times. ( Full article here)

Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before I Adopted

No one ever told me a story in which adoption was really hard at first, but then got better. After connecting with hundreds of other adoptive families over the years, I really feel like that’s the true story that most of us experience. When a child is placed with you, particularly an older child, it can be really tough for awhile. It is so worth it to struggle through those hard times. Adoption is never all rainbow unicorns, but there are plenty of magic moments. (Read the full article here)

What Adoptive Parenting Has Taught Me About Persistence

Families who have been able to adopt recognize that without persistence, they would have never made it to their adoption days. It takes a lot of fortitude to finish the stacks of paperwork, background checks, home visits, and any other pertinent requests by the courts, other countries, or placing agencies. In some ways, the process to be approved is a way that families begin to understand how patience and persistence come into play with adoption. (Full Article here)

The Fashion Influencer Has Found A New Gig

As Web 1.0 celebrities grew up, the fashion market became more saturated and was quickly co-opted by marketers, making it a less desirable space to be embedded within. Plus, why limit yourself? As influencers saw that they could live their lives as content — streamed on Snapchat or Instagram stories, a reality show in the palm of your hand — the business opportunities became endless. (Full read here)